Many parents may depend on their child care provider or other people to give advice, read how to guides, or read popular books on accomplishing this process in only one day. Methods for toilet training vary among parents.
No matter what approach is used be prepared to have a calm and patient attitude.
Potty training readiness is developmental and a child must develop the need and want to be potty trained; it cannot be rushed or when you decide. Children are like little adults…sometimes no matter how many times you tell them to do something. It seems they have a hearing problem, not always true…it may take him or her time to grasp the concept.
So, if you are not committed to teaching your toddler correct than do not attempt. Having an attitude that “it will eventually happen” will ease some parents’ frustrations.
Allow your toddler to reach the proper age, be in the proper setting, or situation before they are ready to learn. Children are ready to learn when they are healthy, well nourished, and not pressured to achieve at a level above their capability. Just because someone else potty trained their toddler at a certain age, does not mean that you have too.
Understand this…your toddler learns, understands, and feels totally different from educated opinions. Know what drives your toddler get to know them as a person allow them to show you that they are ready to potty train.
If children are encouraged, then they will provide parents with indication and signs of potty training readiness. But children that are pressured to feed, dress themselves, or be ready toilet train before they are physically or intellectually capable, nine times out of ten there will be unavoidable accidents and embarrassment in the future. Embarrassment joined with parental dissatisfaction increases the child’s sense of doubt and shame.
What to Look For?
- Look for playing in the toilet water or clogging the plumbing – throwing objects in the toilet to see what happens.
- Normally, bowel training occurs prior to urine training. This is because children can control the butt muscle at an earlier age than they are able to identify and manage muscles controlling urination. Additionally, parents often can more easily recognize behavior that suggests a child needs to have a bowel movement.
- Squirming and holding private area; are common signs
- Daytime training should occur before night time training.
- Girls usually are toilet trained before boys. Girls start around 18 months and boys around 22 months or later.
- Most potty training problems often can be traced to other struggles among the parent and child (obedience, authority recognition, etc.).
- Before toilet training is started, the child needs to be old enough to have biological control of elimination.
A word of caution: Proceed slowly, taking signals from the child.
Potty Training: Fears
Most toddlers may be scared by or inquiring about toilets or potty chairs if they are rushed. Communicate with your child, take him or her into the bathroom when you to show them that this is normal, start emphasizing that they are a “Big Boy or “Big Girl” – let them be independent. If, you child has fear of the size, noise and rapid water movement of the toilet can be alarming to them -this is not potty training readiness. So it is important to have a small child-sized potty for them to use.
Allow your toddler to the functions of a toilet and allow them to ask questions. Common inquiries of “Where does it go?” and “Will I fall in?” are questions that they ask. Be patient and give truthful, simple explanations because they are smarter than you will ever know-they just have their own little way of showing it.
Attempt to separate this behavior from your toddler otherwise; potty training may be delayed from not teaching your child better bathroom habits.
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Read children’s story books about potty training to your child. There are lots of books available for you get online on potty training. Reading and imagination helps the child to relate to the interesting characters and behaviors within the story and helps them follow accordingly. Offer lots of praise when your child does make some progress. It is not an easy practice but this will help you see results amazingly when you really put in the effort to make your child proud of their achievement. Avoid physical punishment for not using the potty. Stop all reminders about using the toilet. Replace the reminders with the potty training stories you’ve read to your child. This helps as their mind recalls the story and how will keep it in mind when its time.
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